So today, I'm perusing my baby's Facebook looking for something I can leave a comment on... (we're not a lovey-dovey couple by any means but I like to let her know I care about her via the Internet sometimes... LOL) Nicole is like a goddess to the people that know her... LOL... I always call them her "fans" so it's not unusual for me to go on her page and see a lot of traffic from both men and women... and me being the dude I am, I don't let the male attention really get to me because 1) as long as nobody gets out of pocket, I don't need to check them and 2) if someone DOES get out of pocket, Nicole will check that shit WAAAAAAAAAAAAAY before I even need to step in and handle the situation (one thing I absolutely love about her...)
*NOTE: I hate those chicks that will talk mad shit to some random dude out in public and then expect her man to handle the situation... I mean, it's one thing to protect her honor... if a dude gets out of his car because of some road rage*, I'll handle that... I mean, if he's planning to do physical harm to her, then I'm not going to stand by and let that happen... but if a chick is just going in on this dude and says to me "Yo, get your bitch..." don't expect me to whup this nigga's ass for disrespecting you when you were disrespecting him first... that's all I'm saying... now if the nigga is just being blatantly disrespectful, I'll handle that quick, fast and in a hurry but don't egg a nigga on and then expect for me to "fight your battle for you" so to speak...
OK, in any event, I'm on her page and I'm seeing these comments from a dude named Ricky**... now Nicole has told me about A Ricky but I wasn't sure if this was the same one or just some other Ricky... and like I said, me being the type of dude I am, I'm not just gonna go ham on some dude that MIGHT be the one who she was talking about... Ricky is Nicole's ex... a past nigga who I really see any point in acknowledging because he's a past nigga... and it's not on some "Oh, he's this and that and I'm better than him..." or anything like that I just don't acknowledge exes... it's beyond corny to me...
So to make a long story short, I see Ricky making some comments like he feels some type of way about what's going on between me and Nicole... little stuff like "Oh this is the dude you left me for?" and "That nigga a lame anyway..." Little silly shit that's not even for me to address... Nicole, God bless her, has dated what you would call "thugs" in the past... I don't know each one's story, so I'm not here to judge them... but I'm not what one would call a thug... at least not currently... I mean, I'm a college, internet-geek, book-reading type nigga to them... unbeknownst to most people, I actually come from an environment where I HAD to do violent things... I'd been in anger management twice by the age of 11... I've been in gangs... I've been in the middle of shootouts... I've had a very violent past... I mean, I haven't been stabbed or shot or sold drugs or anything like that (that's both by the grace of God and not being stupid in certain situations...) but my hood card is certifiably stamped... I don't talk about it because what's the point of bringing it up? It's lame to me... but I hate when a dude who's "in the streets" will try to call me out for being in college... I'm getting a degree so I don't HAVE to be in the streets...
But I digress, this dude commenced to telling Nicole that they had history (they were together off and on for eight years) and that I can't love her like he does... a whole bunch of regular nigga shit... but in any event, after he was finished saying what he had to say, Nicole deaded the situation... we had a good (couple) laughs about it last night and it's a wrap for dude... I guess I've just never understood this whole thing... I mean, with the exception of my last ex, I've never really tried to get outta pocket (and even that was mild by most accounts...) with me, usually once a relationship is over, I let it be over... I'm usually so relieved that I can go fuck, date, hang out with anybody I want to that I could really care less about what she and some other nigga are doing (sans my "I hope you get AIDS" comment from the last blog... LOL) I've just never been overly concerned with it...
Why is that when we're in a bad relationship (or friendship, for that matter) it's so hard to let go? I mean, sure we all see the potential in where a relationship can go... but when it's made clear that it won't go in that direction, shouldn't we be happy that it's ending? I know for me, I'm a hopeless romantic and often have plans of grandeur when it comes to each and every relationship... I tend to see the good in them... well I take that back... I see the good and the bad, I just tend to FOCUS on the good in them... but once the relationship ends, I think about how the relationship was going and it's like "why the hell did I even bother with her for so long...?" and i breathe a sigh of relief that I don't have to deal with such a stressful situation anymore... I guess the bad outweighs the good in most situations... I mean, even the one relationship I can say was completely my fault... I still say it's good that I got out of it because years later, she ended up showing her true colors as a friend and I couldn't do anything but THANK GOD OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER that she and I never had anything more than a two-month relationship...
I guess in the grand scheme of things, relationships happen the way they're supposed to... I can see where my past relationships have molded me into a better man for Nicole just as I'm sure some things from her past have made her a better woman for me...
I notice that my last post and this one included exes and they'll probably be my last... I really want this blog to focus more on me and the future Mrs. Hard Work and I feel like bringing exes into the fray just isn't the direction I wanna go with...
*NOTE: I hate those chicks that will talk mad shit to some random dude out in public and then expect her man to handle the situation... I mean, it's one thing to protect her honor... if a dude gets out of his car because of some road rage*, I'll handle that... I mean, if he's planning to do physical harm to her, then I'm not going to stand by and let that happen... but if a chick is just going in on this dude and says to me "Yo, get your bitch..." don't expect me to whup this nigga's ass for disrespecting you when you were disrespecting him first... that's all I'm saying... now if the nigga is just being blatantly disrespectful, I'll handle that quick, fast and in a hurry but don't egg a nigga on and then expect for me to "fight your battle for you" so to speak...
OK, in any event, I'm on her page and I'm seeing these comments from a dude named Ricky**... now Nicole has told me about A Ricky but I wasn't sure if this was the same one or just some other Ricky... and like I said, me being the type of dude I am, I'm not just gonna go ham on some dude that MIGHT be the one who she was talking about... Ricky is Nicole's ex... a past nigga who I really see any point in acknowledging because he's a past nigga... and it's not on some "Oh, he's this and that and I'm better than him..." or anything like that I just don't acknowledge exes... it's beyond corny to me...
So to make a long story short, I see Ricky making some comments like he feels some type of way about what's going on between me and Nicole... little stuff like "Oh this is the dude you left me for?" and "That nigga a lame anyway..." Little silly shit that's not even for me to address... Nicole, God bless her, has dated what you would call "thugs" in the past... I don't know each one's story, so I'm not here to judge them... but I'm not what one would call a thug... at least not currently... I mean, I'm a college, internet-geek, book-reading type nigga to them... unbeknownst to most people, I actually come from an environment where I HAD to do violent things... I'd been in anger management twice by the age of 11... I've been in gangs... I've been in the middle of shootouts... I've had a very violent past... I mean, I haven't been stabbed or shot or sold drugs or anything like that (that's both by the grace of God and not being stupid in certain situations...) but my hood card is certifiably stamped... I don't talk about it because what's the point of bringing it up? It's lame to me... but I hate when a dude who's "in the streets" will try to call me out for being in college... I'm getting a degree so I don't HAVE to be in the streets...
But I digress, this dude commenced to telling Nicole that they had history (they were together off and on for eight years) and that I can't love her like he does... a whole bunch of regular nigga shit... but in any event, after he was finished saying what he had to say, Nicole deaded the situation... we had a good (couple) laughs about it last night and it's a wrap for dude... I guess I've just never understood this whole thing... I mean, with the exception of my last ex, I've never really tried to get outta pocket (and even that was mild by most accounts...) with me, usually once a relationship is over, I let it be over... I'm usually so relieved that I can go fuck, date, hang out with anybody I want to that I could really care less about what she and some other nigga are doing (sans my "I hope you get AIDS" comment from the last blog... LOL) I've just never been overly concerned with it...
Why is that when we're in a bad relationship (or friendship, for that matter) it's so hard to let go? I mean, sure we all see the potential in where a relationship can go... but when it's made clear that it won't go in that direction, shouldn't we be happy that it's ending? I know for me, I'm a hopeless romantic and often have plans of grandeur when it comes to each and every relationship... I tend to see the good in them... well I take that back... I see the good and the bad, I just tend to FOCUS on the good in them... but once the relationship ends, I think about how the relationship was going and it's like "why the hell did I even bother with her for so long...?" and i breathe a sigh of relief that I don't have to deal with such a stressful situation anymore... I guess the bad outweighs the good in most situations... I mean, even the one relationship I can say was completely my fault... I still say it's good that I got out of it because years later, she ended up showing her true colors as a friend and I couldn't do anything but THANK GOD OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER that she and I never had anything more than a two-month relationship...
I guess in the grand scheme of things, relationships happen the way they're supposed to... I can see where my past relationships have molded me into a better man for Nicole just as I'm sure some things from her past have made her a better woman for me...
I notice that my last post and this one included exes and they'll probably be my last... I really want this blog to focus more on me and the future Mrs. Hard Work and I feel like bringing exes into the fray just isn't the direction I wanna go with...
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*This story will be coming up in a blog very soon... it's meant to be funny so I don't want ya'll to think my girl's psycho... she's really sweet, just has a bit of a temper problem...
**Not his real name...
LOL ironically so, my last blog about the biddy talking trash to Babybottoms dad came out in the open because she left a comment on his FB wall that insinuated something took place between them that didn't. I don't fly off in monkey rages over what is said to him on these social networks because I really don't care but I KNOW she put it on there for me to see. Some people are just messy as hell and think because "comments" would potentially damage a relationship they have with someone, it would do the same with others....wrong.
ReplyDeleteI can't stand retarded simpletons LOL
@Assertive Wit
ReplyDeleteYeah, I completely understand what you're saying... I don't know if he was doing it because he thinks I'm like him and I'm gonna act a fool in some type of internet beef (another thing I think is INCREDIBLY corny) or if he just wanted to get a rise out of her but he failed on both accounts... like I said, we laughed it off later on in the evening... People just don't wanna see other people happy... especially exes...
It annoys me as well to see ex joints making irrelevant statements.
ReplyDeleteBut his presence is annihilated so it's all dandy in the fanny pack.
@The Virgin Queen... I'm not really sure what it is about exes making random comments... LOL... I find it funny most of the time...
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